a helping hand

[cadence]

Nicely put Amber- you can't tell people what to do. For a start you never know the whole story, & you don't know how they feel.

When people are insecure & confused, they need the space to make their own decisions.

I'll second that, and to be honest, the first year of my existence here has taught me to learn many things about myself, and what I needed in regards to what I wanted through trial and error. Most of my experiences have not been good ones to say the least.
I would be the first to offer my input as to what can go wrong in general. Not saying that everything I have gone through was horrible, but my inexperience and confused state made me an easier target for being the used prey that other dominants seek to abuse.