munches

[gemmy]

I've not been to a munch here in my city but attended a BDSM conference in a city north of here. There were many people from the local munches here that also attended (I'd met them in the local chatroom). It was fun to meet people from here who like the lifestyle but really I absolutely hated all the posturing and public 'outness'. They all worked their best to get me to 'play' at the events nightly 'play parties'.

It may just be me, but I have no desire, in any regard, whatsoever, to publically play with strangers - what is that deal about that anyway?? lol I understand that some people are exhibitionists and some are voyeurs but I'm neither, nor would I ever want some random stranger to whip my ass in public, just for the sake of whipping it?? There is no emotional bond, no trust has been created and there is no sex allowed so it was completely lost on me as to why anyone would do this lol

I do want to play sometime and experience all the great kink out there but I want it to be a close, intimate experience with someone I fully trust and private!! haha

After having been through the conference, I'd pretty much decided that 'munches' wouldn't be a whole lot different and I've no want to defend myself on the issue of not playing to justify that I am a sub It doesn't mean I don't completely understand this lifestyle and all I want from it, all it means is I've sexually not experienced some kink lol

[ShaynaUnderBondage]

I understand that some people are exhibitionists and some are voyeurs but I'm neither, nor would I ever want some random stranger to whip my ass in public, just for the sake of whipping it?? There is no emotional bond, no trust has been created and there is no sex allowed so it was completely lost on me as to why anyone would do this lol

I do want to play sometime and experience all the great kink out there but I want it to be a close, intimate experience with someone I fully trust and private!! haha

i have never been to one but i fully agree with you on what you said in the above quote. the emotional bond and the trust is what ( i feel ) makes the relationship between M/s so amazing and special.
Like i said ive never been to a 'munch' meeting or a BDSM gathering of any kind, but i dont think i ever want go to a 'munch' meeting just from what you two say, it would be nice to get to know people in my area that are into the same thing as me but not if they are treating me that way...it would be weird..