I've yet to attend a munch and it was because of the reasons Icey stated in her original post. I'm rather shy (until you get to know me) and tend to sit back and observe. Although I'd like to meet more "lifestyle" friends as I can't always discuss certain aspects of D/s with my other friends, I tend to freeze up a bit when people are overly friendly. I know this probably occur at munches or any place where you're new, but it's a bit overwhelming. Also, I don't plan to play in public; although I will admit I'm a bit of a voyeur.