Quote Originally Posted by Tojo View Post
Congratulations orangeblossoms, & a very good question indeed.

Surprising as may sound, I really can't imagine a 24/7 D/s relationship, & nor could I imagine wanting one.

My wife is generally submissive towards me, but I couldn't imagine bondage & D/s being more than just part of a relationship.

The ideal sub for me, is a woman who's powerful & confident- but chooses to submit to me for a period of time. I believe in regular tasks & rituals, but can't get my head around being married to someone who sees me as her Master.

Geez it's bad enough now, I spend half my life encouraging my wife to be more confident & independant.

Please- no offence to all the lovely subs out there who are powerful & confident, & married to their Dom- I know it's possible!

I just can't imagine it- if my wife was taken by aliens, I can't imagine jumping into a D/s relationship that was every day of my life. It's a part of me, not my sole reason for living.
Thanks for chiming in, a guys perspective is always much appreciated. Its definitely not possible to live a 24/7 D/s life and I had to learn that the hard way. And my fiance, he always tells me that he wants the confident girl first, the one who kicks butt and takes no prisoners for school and work and such, but its not always easy maintaining that attitude even if he wants it, b/c he tells me what to think and when to think, so Im constantly fighting back going a bit mindless.

Another thing I should mention which probably will make more sense on why I asked this, I tend to be driven by extremes. Everything is taken to the max. Cant just have one thing bound, have to be completely bound, cant be 95% obedient, have to be 100% obedient, and I know its just not reasonable.

This made me think of another question?! How many doms demand or better put expect (b/c some ask very sweetly, which is absolutely nerve wracking) a girl or boy to be absolutely obedient. Where does the line get drawn between physically being told to things, and living your life precisely as someone else sees fit?! *very inquisitive glance all around*