I always wonder at the doormat conversation. A girl with high self-esteem and self-confidence can never be a doormat, regardless of whether she obeys totally. The fact of the matter is that she has made a major choice: to trust in one and give him her obedience. If he is worthy, he will make proper decisions with her in mind and free her of the worry. Essentially, her last decision needs to be her most thoughtful. After that, there is really no reason for her not to be totally obedient.