Quote Originally Posted by ShyGreenEyedGrl View Post
i never made it to the clubs (too shy). i didn't really know what exactly i wanted at first...so i talked to alot of people at length on here. For me i looked for someone with similar bdsm intersts as well as regular stuff, because as much as we all may wish to, we can't play all day. Reality has this wonderful way of crashing the party.
then i found my Master online...or rather He found me.
When He and i started talking it was online at first, then graduated to the phone, and finally after several months we agreed to meet in r/l. i am now His r/l slave.
But of course it doesn't always happen like that. Some people i know have searched several years for the right Master.
I guess my best advice is to go slowly and really get to know Him. Trust takes time to build and when you are giving yourself to someone you want to know exactly who that person is.
i don't know if this is what you were looking for but i hope i can help in some small way.

Btw... from the south suburbs of Chicago
Very good advice - take it slowly and carefully - get to know the person, read their posts in forums to get a feel for how they present themselves, build trust, if you do meet - go slowly there too - and have a safety net. There are a couple of treads dealing with r/l meeting - they are worth paying attention to. Above all, don't be eager and let it show - that's like blood in the water - it attracts sharks. As ShyGreenEyedGirl says - trust takes time to build - never just assume you can trust - it has to be earned - just as respect does.

Good luck in your search. I hope you find someone who lifts you to the sky on gossamer wings and makes your heart sing with pleasure in his service.

Whip