Originally Posted by Alex Bragi
I think perhaps it would help if you could understand the difference between humiliation and degradation
Originally Posted by sisterhoney61
I love humiliation. It is a major turn on for me
I know what you mean, and know the difference too. It's just that that is still a sore spot with me and I have to be careful. Sometimes want to blow up first and ask questions later. (Like my daughters teacher. She wrote the student's names on the blackboard to remind them to finish the assignment and bring it in. I didn't know that, but just blew up without asking questions.)

When it gets down to it, the ones I worry about most are predatory wannabes looking to take advantage of someone to soothe their own inadequacies. I'm not worried about people who play, just the ones who don't know when to stop. I guess it's like so many things in life, in the wrong hands it can be destructive. I'm worring alot about the kooks but paint everyone with the same brush.

Even after the problem is dealt with there are little side issues that pop up. One way to explain it is through the old proverb about cutting open a feather pillow and letting the feathers blow away. You can recover even sew up and refill the pillow case alot easier than you can recover all the feathers. This problem is one of the feathers for me.

Alex, thanks for all you've done, especially behind the scenes. I get a little uncomfortable with this subject, one because it was a horror to live through but also because so many people who participated in this thread have suffered so much. At least I never lived in fear of great bodily harm or was in fear for my life. I hope everyone who went through their own personal hell gets some benefit from the support of others and from relating their story here.