Yes, I would say that goeas for ANY type of punishment, whether it be something physical or a mental lesson learned. Every Dom worth his salt I have ever spoken with on this topic has agreed that enacting a punishment while angry is a VERY BAD IDEA. Anger and vindictiveness are what turn a safe, sane, and consensual Lifestyle into abuse. Again, this can be applied to both physical and to headspace discipline.
Hope I cleared things up!
Originally Posted by adrianaaurora
When bdsm punishment becomes an excuse for a dom to express his anger it becomes abuse. If he is truly angry he waits until he has calmed down to deal with an issue.
So basically we agree that we agree, lol. We all perceive things differently and I was just saying that for me that particular form of vindictiveness is especially intolerable.
When I'm good I'm very, very good, but when I'm bad, I'm better.