Downtown Amber --
I guess I just came from a place of being hurt because all the comments about bi fakery are things that I've heard and continue to hear as a part of general anti-bi sentiments. Especially since the anger against bi fakery is really just, these girls are acting slutty and therefore bisexual, and I hate that connection in general. It felt like the same thinly veiled mistrust -- how far is "Why is it so cool to be bi?" from the moms and dads and televangelists who tell their kids that there's no such thing as homosexuality, it's just a phase/fad/something "in" these days? I think the idea in general that we're questioning people about their sexual identity (or that they should "prove it" somehow) is already a little bit of shaky ground to stand on. Sure, it would piss me off if someone wanted to get boys by kissing girls. But honestly, I'm not that person, and I have no idea what they actually think or feel. And so the only actual difference that my being pissed off is putting out into the world is a contribution to the sense that many people are "faking" it. It just makes me uncomfortable, that's all. I'm not mad at people for being mad, I'm just saying, there's got to be some people who are willing to say HEY yes it's annoying but this is potentially not constructive, and let's think about some further implications.
With the dom/sub wannabe thing.. Eh. Aside from the fact that I'd be hard pressed to accurately claim the "true" BDSM or "Lifestyle" ideals, it's the same with me. I don't feel threatened by people doing whatever it is they're doing, be it in cheap leather or otherwise. I think they're silly, yeah, sure. But also I think, perhaps they'll find their way into something more, or perhaps this is enough for them, and, like you said, at least we're getting a little mainstream exposure. It's the same way with this bi-fakery issue. There's nothing about a girl kissing a girl who doesn't like to kiss girls that makes me like kissing girls any less. Hope that makes sense![]()