Quote Originally Posted by bip0lar View Post
i was actually discussing something similar with my mother a while ago, and i liked the way she put it:
In other cultures, what we choose to call primitive [which is so not true necessarily], men had different wives/women/partners not only for their own pleasure but also for the comfort of the women. Each wife/woman/partner was in charge of a specific duty. Today a wife has to be a good mother, a good spouse, good at her job, social, take care of herself and be pretty, have food ready for the family and so on and so forth and all that with a smile on her face.
I've met a Family in poly, they love each other, they care for each other and they respect each other, which i find acceptable in every way. I am not saying i could deal with it--i don't know, but i doubt that i could. I need and want to be special to my Dominant, if i feel that i cannot satisfy his needs i'll just break down--but in no way would i be judgemental of a poly relationship. After all, i'm pretty sure we know of many people cheating on their partners--at least in this case, it's consensual and all needs are met.
but that's just me :x
I understand the sentiment, but why do you set the standard that 'special' to him means you and you alone? Should children feel less special if they have siblings?

And please, not the standard "that's different" argument. Unless you can explain how it's different. Because I don't see it.