Smells like betrayal...

[delish]

I was actually quite frank with my mother when I decided to "come out" to her about it. I sent her links to websites and told her I'd discuss anything. She's probably not comfortable about it, but I wasn't under 18 when I told her, so she couldn't have fits over it at me.

I don't see how small untruths come in, though. Do your mother and friend pry about your sex life? If not, the basics should translate well to vanilla, so to speak. We're in love, he treats me exactly as I deserve, and I am so happy. Those seem like truths that are encompassing, y'know? When it comes to sex, unless they're asking for specifics, say that you're enjoying it. You and he are compatible.

I don't understand what it is about your relationship that needs to be disclosed about you being submissive. It sounds like you just really want to talk to them about that, and if you need to do that, it's something you and he need to negotiate. Not everyone has the same level of privacy, so you both have to adapt. It can't be a nebulous thing that's floating around and making you miserable without even really being defined.

[steelish]

I was actually quite frank with my mother when I decided to "come out" to her about it. I sent her links to websites and told her I'd discuss anything. She's probably not comfortable about it, but I wasn't under 18 when I told her, so she couldn't have fits over it at me.

I don't see how small untruths come in, though. Do your mother and friend pry about your sex life? If not, the basics should translate well to vanilla, so to speak. We're in love, he treats me exactly as I deserve, and I am so happy. Those seem like truths that are encompassing, y'know? When it comes to sex, unless they're asking for specifics, say that you're enjoying it. You and he are compatible.

I don't understand what it is about your relationship that needs to be disclosed about you being submissive. It sounds like you just really want to talk to them about that, and if you need to do that, it's something you and he need to negotiate. Not everyone has the same level of privacy, so you both have to adapt. It can't be a nebulous thing that's floating around and making you miserable without even really being defined.

I couldn't have said it better! There's really no reason the submissiveness has to come into the open during any discussion with your mother or best friend.

"Yes mom, I love him very much"

Smile and respond: "Oh yes, we're verrrry sexually compatible - but I'm not going into details - I'll just say that we both make each other very happy"

By not going into details you won't be betraying him, and you're also letting your mom and friend know how much he means to you. Although you might want to discuss being able to say at least this much to your mom and friend with him before doing so.