Quote Originally Posted by Veralynne View Post
I am not poly... and don't intend to be.. but I am just gonna throw my two cents in for fun.

If I was to ever consider a poly relationship- I think that I would have to have a relationship with both the man and woman already in it. I'd want to have a personal sexual relationship with each of them.. so it didn't feel like just 1 guy with 2 chicks, ya know? I'd have to have something where each "pair" has their own personal love and relationship between them. In my mind.. that is the only way I could make something work... that... and assuming the original couple made me feel very included and didn't spend a lot of "private time" together... especially at the beginning.
A CoupleShip sort of configuration with everyone in the HouseHold? I've seen that work well, and been a part of such configurations before. That would be ideal for here <G>.

It is also real important for the newer person to feel wanted, accepted, and included. And that everyone work towards that for things to work well. It takes a lot of Honest Open Communication, and positive actions, to get there. It is just as important for that newer person to be able to understand and accept and be comfortable with the fact that the people that were there before them already have established Relationship patterns as well. This does not mean the newer person means less than the others there, just that they've spent more Time together, and Grown together, over that Time. And that in Time as that newer person is integrated into the HouseHold, the newer person will become a part of much of that, as well as bring new things with them. At the same time, not Everything will change between the pre-ex Partners to accomodate the newer person either. The newer person establishes their Own Place with each Member of the HouseHold, seperately, and together.

Thanks for sharing.

Respectfully~SidheWolf