Quote Originally Posted by Mizar View Post
This is just a curiosity. I have a sub, online only, we talk (daily practicaly) and we aren't together in any other sense. In anycase, the point of this is. she talks as though she wants a moderately serious Dom (a sacred bond she calls it), which is what I hope for, then she wont speak with me, or will suddenly stop, she generaly has a...good...reason for it, then we will talk, and she will fall over herself (practicaly) with listening to what I tell her to. It is a bad cycle I find myself in. I love her as my sub, but sometimes...she ignores me persay, and this is aggrivating. I don't know what to do about her. In essence how should I, get her under control, or what in general should I do about her?
I've read the questions, and the thread. One shared something of their past to consider. It wasn't a happy turnout, but that happens unfortunately sometimes. I have also an aspect to share, or consider. It wasn't a happy time for me either. But it happened, and is worth considering I think also.

Perhaps this Sub is in a committed Relationship already, or even Married. It could be D/s or 'nilla. This could be an online thing for her. A way to sort of Live in her fantasies. Or a way to get attention she isn't getting for whatever reason from her Partner. Or she could even be seeking a ITF D/s Partner on some level. Her Partner may know nothing of her online activities. And if they are 'nilla, nothing of her other side/deep needs. Or she may have no open Agreement to persue such things. That could well explain the absences, or lack or breaks in communications. If this is the case, she does have to be careful, or perhaps lose what she has.

There are a lot of players online. It's something they enjoy. Some play very hard with others. Some do great harm in what they do, and cause others a lot of pain. Some will play it to the end. When they come trapped or busted in their game. When that happens, they just find someone else eventually. And start another hard game.

My experience in this was as that Partner. It was horrific on that end also.

I'm not saying this is the case. Just that it might be. And it is something to be careful of.

I wish You all the best. And I hope this is not the case at all.

Respectfully~SidheWolf