I remember going into a relationship where the girl whom I was with was also submissive I liked her before I found out she was also kinky. Unfortionetly I usually ended up being top though it didn't seem hard for me I didn't enjoy it and at some points scared myself I saw that she was giving herself over and then I would wonder what was stopping me from pushing this pleasure and pain to just pain. I remember choking her one time while getting her off and thinking I didn't have to stop choking her and she would die happy. (this was a few years ago when I was less stable) Though when I was able to convince her to top me it was unbelievable but she lacked self confidence in doing it so it usually wouldn't get to far. I with we had a third to top us both so much more can be done with two bottoms.