If I went to a birthday party with my local kinsters, I certainly wouldn't be surprised if the "birthday smacks" got a bit more serious than usual.

But I agree that since you were new, it would have been polite to ask rather than just hand you the paddle. Some subs just can't top, and they ought to allow for that.

If they've got any sense at all, they will be the ones to apologise when you go back.