On a more general note, chalsia - it looks to me like youīre rather new to the scene,and on that regard, I have to say itīs very brave of you to attend such festivities alone - I would never have done that when I was new.
I got befriended with a couple who taught me a lot at first, long before they took me to any festivity that included others.
They explained a lot to me, and I was allowed to ask questions until their ears bled.
The first thing they taught me was that I did not have to participate in anything that made me uncomfortable - on the contrary!
BDSM relationships involve a far greater trust than nilla ones, the reason being that the potential for doing not only physical, but psychological harm/damage is far higher.

The BDSM crowd is not some sort of exclusive club where you have to pretend to like everything thatīs going on in order to become a member.

While you are going to do and like things that seem unimaginable to you at this point of your journey, there will be things which will always be a hard limit for you, or which just donīt do anything for you. This is ok. It takes all sorts.
There is no need to feel horrified of things you dislike. Nobody will force you to do them.
It is not necessary to be judgemental, though, if you see things going on that do nothing for you (smiles). Just do it like everyone else, and look the other way (in real life) or go out of chat if something that goes on unsettles you.

Keep in mind that what you like, or do, is completely your own decision, not anybody elseīs!
If you feel you are too insecure to handle such situations yet (and running away is not handling a situation), perhaps it would be better for you to first establish a friendship with someone you are comfortable with, and ask all questions that bother you, and then return to munches and such at a later time.

Again, I assure you, if these people are worth your time, they will not expect you to do anything you are not comfortable with, ever.