I'm now very happily in a 24/7 real time BDSM relationship- but I was the submissive in an online relationship- my Dom used to vanish for relatively long periods of time and have a good reason for why. I found out that in fact he was in a 24/7 Dom/slave relationship- with a slave who did not know that he was persuing a relationship with me and the abscences were due to her being home and him not being able to be online. I truly hope this is not your situation but it is something you need to be very aware of. There are an awful lot of people out there who are not what they appear to be and the fallout can be painful for everyone concerned.