Dammit, suckered into reading another 'problem with orgasming' thread. Here I thought it was going to be about some unusual problem, like a submissive that couldn't do math.

Playing Devil's advocate for a moment (I do that so often, I'm on retainer);

Patience is one of the Dom/me's key tools, and They will want to use it to help better your life as an individual as well as Y/your lives as a D/s pair, if They are in the "good egg" category.
Just because he or she isn't interested in working through your issues doesn't mean that they are not a 'good egg'. Good people are not obligated to go around 'fixing' problems.

Just remember that no matter who you choose, your Dom/me should follow the rules of safe, sane, and consensual and should respect you. It is his/her duty to do so as Dom/me, as well as to protect you and look after you. Your role as sub should simply be to serve your Master or Mistress as (s)he directs and to do so without question.
Nonsense.

1: SSC is not a structure everyone adheres to, nor are they obligated to.

2: I so hate the 'all submissives must be babied' mantra, as it's so patronizing. I generally expect the people I deal with to be adults enough to be able to reasonably look after their own selves.

3: Not every relationship is based around respect, which is fortunate for all the humiliation junkies out there. All lasting relationships are about fulfilling mutual needs. Respect is not necessarily one of those needs shared by both parties.

4: Obedience without question? Hold the phone. Unquestioned obedience is almost always a problem waiting to happen as obedience without question is action without consideration. There better be a point where the submissive questions what s/he is being told to do. Just because someone is 'dominant' doesn't mean that they are immune from errors in judgment nor will they always do the 'right' thing. A good subordinate is obedient, while a great one knows when not to be.