Friendship

[brwneydgirl]

But why? What do you think about the 'being people before gender' thought that some here has voiced?

For example, Lion's post about being "friends only" with his roommate and highschool chum. While I don't doubt his word, I DO find it difficult to believe that a man and woman can be friends...very close friends and have NO sexual tension there (obviously given that both parties are straight). You're comfortable with each other, there is something tangible that you genuinely enjoy about the other person. Maybe I'm shortsighted but I say, given the right set of circumstances, those two friends have thought about taking things further.

I suppose you could argue that you're not attracted to ALL of your friends...and of course, no one is attracted to EVERYONE. But how many truly unattractive friends do you have (of the opposite gender)? I have quite a few male friends...and I find most of them to be at least moderately attractive. Does this mean I'd like to jump into bed with all of them? No. But we do tease each other and make "off color" comments to each other...does that constitute "sexual tension"?

[thir]

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I have quite a few male friends...and I find most of them to be at least moderately attractive. Does this mean I'd like to jump into bed with all of them? No. But we do tease each other and make "off color" comments to each other...does that constitute "sexual tension"?[/QUOTE]

I've been wondering whether it is simply a cultural habit, flirting? We do not seem to do it as much here.

[Lion]

For example, Lion's post about being "friends only" with his roommate and highschool chum. While I don't doubt his word, I DO find it difficult to believe that a man and woman can be friends...very close friends and have NO sexual tension there (obviously given that both parties are straight). You're comfortable with each other, there is something tangible that you genuinely enjoy about the other person. Maybe I'm shortsighted but I say, given the right set of circumstances, those two friends have thought about taking things further.

I suppose you could argue that you're not attracted to ALL of your friends...and of course, no one is attracted to EVERYONE. But how many truly unattractive friends do you have (of the opposite gender)? I have quite a few male friends...and I find most of them to be at least moderately attractive. Does this mean I'd like to jump into bed with all of them? No. But we do tease each other and make "off color" comments to each other...does that constitute "sexual tension"?

Regarding my roommate, we talk about each other's sex lives. We're open like that, and it hasn't made me feel uncomfortable (I don't imagine it makes her uncomfortable as well since she brings up the topic a fair bit). And my friend from high school, sex is not a topic of conversation for us. Not because we avoid it, but it's just something that never popped into our minds. Think about talking about sex with a sibling, this pretty much fits the mood.

I can say though that cross-gender friendships are not for everyone. Some people can have it, and some people can't.

[brwneydgirl]

I can say though that cross-gender friendships are not for everyone. Some people can have it, and some people can't.

I can have friendships...they just happen to include a bit of mutual flirting or ribbing. And I like it like that...almost puts a bit of fire in my blood for some reason.

[thir]

I have quite a few male friends...and I find most of them to be at least moderately attractive. Does this mean I'd like to jump into bed with all of them? No. But we do tease each other and make "off color" comments to each other...does that constitute "sexual tension"?

Maybe just a sort of easy "sexual awareness"??