I have worked as a counselor and I am in AA and sponsor many women. I would have to say that much of the questions would apply to many women, many more than are slaves. Most of us have had bad relationships for example. I mean how many people in the world can say they haven't? Women not being able to orgasm is not unusual sadly, nor is having an alcoholic or dysfunctional parent. As far as the need to control? I am not sure if you mean co-dependancy or being in an authoritative role somewhere in life? I would have to say that once I stopped questioning why am I like this and looking for reasons the easier it has been for me. I hate to think of it as being messed up somehow or somewhere. I have experienced that people for the most part are broken somewhere and have extraordinary strength somewhere as well, just all in different places. I would just be careful as was said above to look for a check list for slaves as it starts to quickly remind me of a profile for an illness rather than what do we all have in common. Unless it included strengths in the "profile" it would feel negative to anyone who had to look at it.