Personally, I don't feel defective, but l wouldn't care if I was. As long as I'm not grabbing strangers off the streets and vice versa (though, can't lie--I'm not 100% adverse to the latter), no one should be concerned. People who hate women will find a reason to hate them with or without BDSM or even porn. Some will say I'm morally wrong for eating meat, but that's not going to keep me from sinking into a slab of ribs.