I am not in a poly relationship and never have been so, therefore, I can add zero input on this topic but i just wanted to thank you all for throwing in your opinions. I truly believe that to be in a BDSM setting, you have to respect and understand (as best as you can) all angles of the lifestyle.

I will say that even though I'm not poly,, I can relate to a lot of those feelings statd above. Like my Dom is mine!! I know as a sub, that seems like a completelt uncalled for statement. However, when a good friend of mine started asking Him questions about BDSM, I felt that she was shaking my cherry tree. I know that he would never be her Dom, but even the thought of it bothered me. Also, comments have been made that she be tied up in the corner with duct tape over her mouth, watching as we played. Even that made me feel like even though it was a just a thought, she had become a part of what Him and I have.

I suppose my point is that we all deal with some form of jealousy. I agree with what Brkndrgn said. I think we all need to remember that we hold a place somewhere that nobody else could fill. I know for a fact that I am His one and only. I know that he does not want or need anything more. I would think as a poly, you could pull on your individual strengths. Your own fabulous traits and know that is why he holds you close, but at the same time acknowledge that other subs also hold something speacial.

Like I said, I am not poly but if you take just the jealousy chunk, I think anyone can relate. I hope you find your balance. BDSM is great and I think if it interests you, its worth finding that perfect balance.