Quote Originally Posted by slavehaven View Post
My slave and I have been living this lifestyle for 5 years and she has been collar for 3. I am a poly Master and in the begining she thought she was as well (or maybe she just thought she could do it because she wanted to be collared so bad.) The understanding was written into her contract and before long I began to introduce others into our play. It became obvious right away that her intense devotion is akin to obsession. The jealousy was/is monumental. It took me aback. It has been a struggle because she feels like a failure as a slave and I feel crippled as a Master. The problem is that we both want eachother to be happy. Yes, she is my slave. However, I do not force her servitude. Force will break her will and spirit. She has begged me to take another girl so that she can feel good about her gift, but I know it is killing her inside. Her jealousy makes her act out whenever we try to bring someone in.
We are working on it and I am training her to find better ways to deal with it, but I question myself for I fear I am killing the very thing that makes her special--her obsession!
Can I ask some questions? It seems to me you touch on something important here. Is it possible that her obsession is simply being monogamous? Is it possible that her obsession is devoution? Just asking, because you said in your first post that all subs are obsessive, and I am trying to understand what exactly you
mean by it.

"Definition of OBSESSIVE
1
a : tending to cause obsession b : excessive often to an unreasonable degree
2
: of, relating to, or characterized by obsession : deriving from obsession


Many dancers are obsessive about their weight.
He is an obsessive workaholic who never stops thinking about his job.
an obsessive interest in space travel
The new therapy is supposed to help people control their obsessive thoughts."

Further, how does obsession (as I understand the word) go with poly relationships?
And finally, is it possible that it all went a bit too fast?

Hope you understand that I mean no offence here, just wanting to get to something important: Is there something obsessive about submission?