Quote Originally Posted by ksst, scarlet, et.al.
Why is three years of ownership the same as 30 years of vanilla relationship?
Strictly a personal opinion of course... and I maintain both vanilla and kink relationships (being poly and/or open,) I just think that the intensity of emotions one feels between a dominant and submissive, are more intense with higher highs and lower lows, more fulfilling, and in some ways, more prone to love/lust "at first sight" fulfillment and burnout, than vanilla. Master/slave relationships, that are based on emotional bonds, may be even moreso in intensity.

So a three year commitment is like a 30 year vanilla relationship and those aren't disposed of as readily as a relationship of shorter term.