Quote Originally Posted by thir View Post
Can I ask some questions? It seems to me you touch on something important here. Is it possible that her obsession is simply being monogamous? Is it possible that her obsession is devoution? Just asking, because you said in your first post that all subs are obsessive, and I am trying to understand what exactly you
mean by it.

"Definition of OBSESSIVE
1
a : tending to cause obsession b : excessive often to an unreasonable degree
2
: of, relating to, or characterized by obsession : deriving from obsession


Many dancers are obsessive about their weight.
He is an obsessive workaholic who never stops thinking about his job.
an obsessive interest in space travel
The new therapy is supposed to help people control their obsessive thoughts."

Further, how does obsession (as I understand the word) go with poly relationships?
And finally, is it possible that it all went a bit too fast?

Hope you understand that I mean no offence here, just wanting to get to something important: Is there something obsessive about submission?
1. Her obsession is definitely defined around monogamy which is partially my fault since I painted that picture for her early in our relationship. However, I believe her obsession is not fixed and will evolve to suit my demands--I hope!

2. Of course her obsession is tied to her devotion. They are both pulling the same wagon. With that thinking, as one changes direction the other shall follow. We are changing direction and I know she will adapt and give me her all no matter where I lead her. This trait is the essence of a true submissive. Her obsession will find new footholds.

3. Obsession in poly relations seems to be the rub. Obsessiveness in any relationships breeds possessiveness, and the possessiveness is what causes the heartache.

4. Speed of approach is not the problem. As with any psychological discomfort, exposure is the issue. It's either building discomfort or instant panic but all roads lead to Rome.

5. Finally, yes, I believe obsession and submission are common tandems. It's the nearly fanatical single mindedness to serve that makes my slave such a wonderful subject.