What do we mean by sadist?

[leo9]

I was a kid about 6 years when i was already excited about torture scenes.

Me too! I had some books about pirates that I got that special thrill from.

As an adolescent i fantasized about being whipped topless in the school yard or rolled in thorny shrubs by my schoolmates naked. My arousal didn't come from love to my torturers, as it doesn't come from love to the security guards in my above mentioned fantasies. Nor comes the sexual arousal simply from the pain, the dentist's treatment or a headache. It comes, as i see it, from the feeling of being submitted to torture, having the pain inflicted on me intentionally.

Exactly so. And it's the bottom's submission to the pain I inflict, hir helpessness in bondage or hir obedient acceptance of punishment, that makes it exciting for me as a Dom. If I hurt someone by accident, I'll apologise even if it's my sub: it wouldn't be enjoyable for either of us.

In the case of my love relationship with my sweet Mistress, love increases the pleasure of painful submission.

And for me as a Dom. I can whip casual play partners and enjoy it, but it's a pale imitation of the joy of making a loved one suffer for my pleasure.

But humiliation is necessary. It is the way at least in my case.

I'm guessing you need it to make you fully aware that you're the helpless one, the one who must and should take whatever pleases your Mistress, so that you can get into that joyful acceptance of suffering that I discovered.

It's all about who can do it, and who submits to having it done.