Apparently subs think that we Doms want doormats. Let me tell you, if I want a doormat I will go to Home Depot and pick one up.

I was having a discussion today with one of my subs and she asked me if she was high-maintenance. It came about because she had been going through some rough times and was worried that I was getting a bit tired of the emotional roller coaster. I told her that Doms expect subs to be high-maintenance, and that it is the basic definition of a sub.

It actually got me to thinking about this, and although it was said as a jest and to reassure her that I am not upset about the need to reassure her, I realized that I do expect this type of thing from a sub. I do not see them as high-maintenance in the sense that they are needy or clingy, but in the sense that I, as a Dom, expect to help them adjust to my style and temperament.

This process is often a drawn out one, and involves adjustments on my part as well. And this actually is even more difficult and prolonged. Walking a sub through this journey is a life time commitment, and requires a firm hand and a soft touch.

Personally, I am glad that subs are high-maintenance. This makes my life interesting and allows me to learn about them and myself as I go along. This makes me a better Dom, and a better man.

I propose that we honor all the high-maintenance subs here, and even have a contest to find the one that is the most challenging.