Here's a quote from another thread. I'm pretty new to this site and didn't really want to comment on something I don't understand, but this quote has been on my mind.

Quote Originally Posted by Sir_Russell View Post
Recently I took a lovely lady deep into subspace she was gone nothing mattered but my touch, spanking her clit to several climaxes. She found herself doing things for me willingly that she swore she would never do and doing them about as well as I have ever experienced she did this very slowly and calmly. Her speech was slow husky and a little other worldly.
So this is my question: If someone tells you when s/he is pretty coherent that s/he has certain limits, is it fair to take them past those limits during play, and if so, when? We might all agree that if someone is drunk or otherwise impaired that they probably can't morally "consent" to things they had previously vetoed, but if someone is deep in subspace or any kind of stupor is it more fair to ask them to "agree" to violate a limit? I'm not suggesting that if someone is very aroused, or had a glass of wine, or has a hangnail, that they can't consent, and it's obviously a spectrum, but still, there must be a point at which the idea of consent loses its meaning. Do people ever discuss these things in advance, like, I understand you are not interested in this now, but if you become carried away during play would you be OK with having done this? Maybe that's a good test - how did Sir Russell's friend feel later about having engaged in these activities? Of couse, making the Dom/me guess what the sub will think later is not fair either. What do other people think about this?