Quote Originally Posted by rachel06 View Post
There are a couple of recent threads about how to say no during a scene. This is not a big problem for me. Sometimes, though, I wish I could express a preference or ask to do something in a different way, and it's hard to figure out how to do it without seeming to top from the bottom.
Saying no is what the safeword "yellow" or "amber" is for. As in, "this isn't an emergency, but it's not working for me."

As for expressing a preference, my late slave-wife would have said things like "It'd be horrible if you twisted those clamps as well as pull them," or "I couldn't bear it if you used the cane instead of the flogger" - what we called "briar-patch suggestions," as in "don't throw me in the..."