Tojo,

I know there are other married souls here, searching and hoping to find a way to fill this missing puzzle piece into their life. For whatever reason, the spouse cannot/will not participate and some of us do not share our exploration with them. Some of us even have personal ads posted here. *cough

Is it cheating? Yep. The question remains, ...~when~.. does it become cheating? Generally the legal definition of sexual intercourse must include penetration. But honestly, perhaps cheating begins as soon as one begins a relationship with a partner that includes private, intimate moments without the complete knowledge of the spouse.

The question remains, how does one intergrate D/s play into their life and still maintain a good marriage, especially if the spouse does not know?

Sigh...

from one imperfect being....