My husband and I had a long talk about this, more than one, actually. We established some pretty firm limits for me, specifically because it's so hard to determine where that line lies.

It's very easy to get caught up in things around here. It takes a lot of willpower, at times, to stay true to my limits. I think I've been pretty good about it, though. There are times when it'd be very easy to cross them, knowing the chances are good my husband would never know. But too many secrets, too many slip-ups . . . It all adds up over time.

Do I wish I could do more? Sometimes. But I have been married nearly 15 years and he's stuck by me this far. I'm not going to do anything to risk that.