"Well I was not going to comment on this ---but it seems a lot of people feel online relationshops are cheating on their spouse ---

My feeling toward this as long as it is online only ---it is a fantasy ---no more than watching a move and having a fantasy about being the one that love is being made to --by the actor"

I'm sorry, sharing the most intimate details of your existance with another human being is not a fantasy. Regardless of the format it's done in. And those details are a hell of a lot more important than any sexual act could ever hope to be.