Married/online D/s?

[ElectricBadger]

When does it become cheating...for certain, it has nothing to do with physical penetration. Rape is not cheating, but there is sex. The emotional aspect, therefore, is the true essence of the thing; but betrayal likewise cannot happen when permitted, so those same feelings or actions, with the knowledge and approval of a spouse, are not illicit.

So to me, betrayal occurs when you act on an emotional connection that is in conflict with your relationship to your spouse.

Ultimately, however, everyone must settle their own accounts and decide what type of person they are, and what they need out of life, and find a way to reconcile those.

[Ozme52]

When does it become cheating...for certain, it has nothing to do with physical penetration. Rape is not cheating, but there is sex. The emotional aspect, therefore, is the true essence of the thing; but betrayal likewise cannot happen when permitted, so those same feelings or actions, with the knowledge and approval of a spouse, are not illicit.

So to me, betrayal occurs when you act on an emotional connection that is in conflict with your relationship to your spouse.

Ultimately, however, everyone must settle their own accounts and decide what type of person they are, and what they need out of life, and find a way to reconcile those.

I'm real strong in my agreement with that statement.

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I'm real strong in my agreement with that statement.

+1

[TomOfSweden]

So to me, betrayal occurs when you act on an emotional connection that is in conflict with your relationship to your spouse.

As far as I'm concearned I whole heartedly agree with this, but I would like to add one more thing. My ex-wife would consider it cheating if I would discuss our sex life in any way and in any form when she wasn't present. Even on an anonymous forum like this. Even though I thought she was a bit too touchy about it, I did respect her wishes. My point is that it's not really relevant what can be considered cheating by most people. The only thing that carries any weight is what your partner judges as cheating, no matter if your conscience is intact.

For me cheating is not an option. If I need to cheat, I also need to break up with her.