Well, I have done some things without instruction, but nothing out of the clear blue sky or anything. Usually its just taking an assigned task and running with it.

Once when told to purchase a specific toy, I picked something else up at the same time. I have worn rope bondage in public under my clothes without being specifically told to. And I do occasionally journal my day if I have something I want to share with him.

In all instances it went over very well. I don't view it as topping from the bottom, because I really tried to make sure it wasn't. Such as the toy I purchased on my own - I picked it out myself, but he certainly decided when, where, and how we would be breaking it in.

I did the rope thing after I was told to experiment with it. And I still journal from time to time after I was tasked to do so daily while he was out of town.

So I try to do things that I know he will like, or at least approve of. And none of it is dictating anything that we will do together - our play time is very much in his hands.

Of course....this is what works for us. Other Doms may have a completely different take on the situation.