Surprising your Dominant

[Logic1]

on the other hand discussing and telling that Dom of yours your desires and wants/needs will get him/her more intuned to what you like and might increase both of yours pleasure gained.

Topping from the bottom or not but steer things the way you want them to go might not be very appreciated by the Dom .
Openness and communiaction is the key here and not steering. Steering and controlling is the Dom/mes part in this.

[Isabelle90]

Openness and communiaction is the key here and not steering. Steering and controlling is the Dom/mes part in this.

This seems to be the theme of a D/s relationship. Why is it so hard for me to get that through my skull?

Thank you, Logic, for your added expertise. Advice offered from one with experience is always appreciated.