Quote Originally Posted by vampyres View Post
I find the whole idea of good and great in this area insulting and elitist actually. This is to personal of an idea for any Universal good and great. A Great Dom/me to a pain slut sub wouldn't be one with who is only lightly sadistic (This in no way makes him/her an Untalented Dom/me or untalented sub), vice versa and so on and so forth. Such as any relationship, there is no universal ideal of perfection in a person, what one person sees as the perfect woman/man is another person’s nightmare. (This is a human relationship, the good and great of it lies in the mind of the human, even a talented leader can not lead them all, since BDSM doesn't lie on the worlds stage, it lies in the hearts and minds of the participating parties good and great doesn't apply past the good and great given by the person/s participating)
"Goodness" or being better has nothing to do with it. Only our basic human social needs. We like sorting ourselves into hierachies. We wan't to find our place in life. We have no need to be on top, only to be heard and get our opinions validated by our peers. It's pure instinct. The monkey part of our brains.

Nietsche was the first to float these ideas and there's nothing elitist at all in his concept of the "over-man". Not if you read it critically. Cleaning out humanist and old dusty Christian moral values and wouldn't hurt though. I think it would be easier to see the big picture if you do.

Humans aren't equal because we don't want to be. Some enjoy being dominated and some enjoy being in control. All of us. Even the ones who aren't into BDSM. See, being a better person has nothing to do with it. I think my slave is a better person than me. She's a lot smarter, for one. But she enjoys submitting to me, which is why we work.