I have been married for 19 years this January to a wonderful woman and wonderful mother to our two girls. I love my wife dearly.

In recent years I finaly came to grips with with my attraction to BDSM and began researching as much as I could find on the subject. At first I was doing this without letting the child bride know and I reached a point where I began to lose touch with our relationship as 'nilla no longer did anything for me.
Because I was no longer communicating (first mistake) the child bride began to think I was having an online affair ( I wasn't). I then compounded my error by withdrawing further until eventualy things came to a head.

The long and short of it was that if I had bothered to discuss my feelings with her in the first place I would have learned that she found some aspects of BDSM atracted her. She isnt into the lifestyle as deeply as I would prefer to go but is open minded enough to listen and learn. ( Currently encouraging her to sign up to these forums )

As far as online / outside relationships, that is a no go area. Firstly because I would feel like I would be betraying her and secondly because it would wound her deeply. I have done enough of that aready.

My personal aim now is to continue my education in the lifestyle and hopefuly the child brides as well. I have now spent the best part of a day going through the threads on this forum and have barely scratched the surface. The institutional knowledge of the membership of these forums, not to mention the obvious interaction of the members gives me hope that we can find a balance that suits us both, through reading and interacting with others here.

Tasker