"Here is my question - Would you give up being a Dom or sub for a vanilla realationship, because you found someone who wasn't into that and you really wanted a relationship with them? And also would you be willing to give up any kinky bedroom sex as well? I am just curious to know if you would and why."

I've thought about this a lot myself. People who know me already know I'm picky about people I get close to even without taking the Lifestyle into consideration. But at this point... no, there's no going back. I can't sit here and pretend to myself that I haven't learned all the things I've learned. D/s, at least for me, is so much deeper than vanilla ever could be (I repeat, at least for me), that there's no way I could justify giving that up for myself.

My desires are all about the mental energy. As far as the kinky sex goes... sex is important, and part of any healthy relationship. But it's the icing on the cake, not the cake. Having said that, it's only locigal that if I'm going to be persuing a D/s relationship, there are certain sex kinks that are pretty hard to negotiate out of that. And I make no secret of the fact that sexually I enjoy exploration, and doing what feels good regardless of what we've been told to do.

I do have this nagging fear I'll meet the "perfect girl" except she'll think all this is terribly freakish. Might not be so bad though. I used to think this was all terribly freakish too, before I opened my mind to accepting more than what I'd been taught in school.