oh D, i wasnt going to say anything. but after reading your last post, i just have to. ok, i will tell a little about me before i start, just so you can see i am not just talking for the sake of talking.
i am nearly 50, have been married for nearly 30 years. before we were married i used to listen to Meatloaf - '2 out of 3 aint bad' and think, that is me. but i didnt have the courage to get out of the bed and walk out the door. so, now i have 4 children, and i am eternally greatful for them, BUT, when i FINALLY worked out that i was a sub/slave, the whole of my life clicked into place.
wayback when, before i even met my husband, i was what was termed at the time - sexually promiscuous - lol i am totally a slut!!
just didnt realise i was subconsciously searching for a Master.
so, now i know who and what i am, and i am not ashamed by it.
BUT my husband is nilla, and i just cant live with him any more. the love i did have has died. and when i read your list of 'things that you whine about' my lord girl. that is my list.

i will ask you this - have you asked yourself why you stay with him? is it just easier to stay with what you know?
i wise woman once said to me - NEVER just settle girl!
life is TOO short to settle. there are MANY wonderful Men out there.
and you will find one.
but you cant do that until you are single, and happy within yourself.
he is obviously happy with you running round after him and will not want to change.
please, i beg you, please. look long and hard at yourself, who you really are and what you really really deep down want from your life.
then if you have to break up with him and cant seem to find the words to say, write them down. write him a letter, pack your bags and go.

wishing you luck, happiness and the strength to follow your dreams
blu