I've been having issues lately as far as domination and my boyfriend goes (if you haven't been able to tell already...heh).

He just admitted tonight that he doesn't like to do things like leaving a vibrator in for a long duration while we are going shopping (just an example...) for his sexual gratification. If he does do it, then it is just so that he feels in control for once (Though I'm not sure if "for once" means in our relationship or life in general). And just for the record, this sort of thing doesn't happen very often. He told me that it probably would from now on, but I'm not so sure...

The more I read about BDSM, the more empty I feel because he just doesn't feel into it. It's not his fault, it's just how he is. I am just wondering if any other Dom's are into this sort of lifestyle just to feel in charge, and not because it has a sexual tie to it.

I honestly don't think that many are into it just for that. To me, it seems that the more sexually into it you are, than the more ideas seem to come to you, and the more creative you are overall. By this I mean:

Non-sexual: Tie her up and have sex with her

Sexual: Tie her up, spank her, pull her hair, talk to her, tell her she's a whore/your whore, really tease the hell out of her until she really feels like she is going to explode if she doesn't have an orgasm.

*sigh* Perhaps I just have a very skewed view?