An online relation can't always run by a timetable and it will never run like clockwork, except if it's complemented by actual real-life encounters every week.
I can't begin to tell you how much this has helped me. I have high expectations of myself and can't stand falling short, displeasing, not doing "enough".

I wonder though...how else does it work? It doesn't look like R/l, it would be difficult for it to. Is it just vivid cybering? Is there submission without cybering? Is it as simple as the respect that is shared in the relationship, and that makes it work? Something as simple as that?

Just pondering.