Signals

[moptop]

cariad, this is fascinating. I`m quite sure we all give off signs all the time - I have so often caught myself at work, talking to a male manager, standing with my hands behind my back and generally eyes down, like a naughty school girl. Yet at work I was always well known for being aggressive, pushy, difficult, hard, scary, difficult to manage, too outspoken, not scared or respectful of authority - but to my immediate, male bosses, I found myself responding in this way!

I would really like to know, though, if you can get to an approximation of what it was he said, and what your flippant reply was? Because that was the interchange that caused the response.

[cariad]

cariad, this is fascinating. I`m quite sure we all give off signs all the time - I have so often caught myself at work, talking to a male manager, standing with my hands behind my back and generally eyes down, like a naughty school girl. Yet at work I was always well known for being aggressive, pushy, difficult, hard, scary, difficult to manage, too outspoken, not scared or respectful of authority - but to my immediate, male bosses, I found myself responding in this way!

I am not quite sure how I am seen at work, but my boss always introduces me to other professionals, (i.e. not clients), as "this is ..., don't worry she is a pussy cat when you get to know her".

I would really like to know, though, if you can get to an approximation of what it was he said, and what your flippant reply was? Because that was the interchange that caused the response.

I cannot remember anything of the exchange which I initially posted about, other than the precise place I was standing when it happened, which I don't think is much help to you. However I a few days later there was a replay, which I can remember the details of. He was painting a radiator, and I stood beside him for a short while watching, and then said "You are painting it white". He painted a few more strokes before starting to worry. "Wasn't I supposed to paint it white?"
Grinning, I replied "Oh, yes, I just commenting on the fact that you were painting it white."
He turned and 'looked' at me "Come here you wench, you should go over my knee for that."

cariad