D/s outside one's marriage

[TomOfSweden]

Well my situation is this .... my husband knows about my submissive side, has just recently told me he wants nothing to do with the lifestyle or Dominanting me *sighs* but knows I need to fullfill that part of myself be it online or otherwise ..... He just wants no knowledge what so ever of what is going on. I'm not sure how to handle this situation as of yet because it's still very new to me. But would that be considered cheating in your book .... because if lets say ... and that's a VERY big if I decided to persue (or be persued as the case may be) by a Dominant online with the possiblity of real life interaction my husband wouldn't know about it because He's asked it to be that way. I don't know if what I just said makes sense at all but I hope so.

In your situation I would figure out how important being submissive is to you. If it isn't important enough then stay with him, (there's plenty of porn and stories you can look at when masturbating). But if you want this to be a lifestyle choice then go. There's no extra points for long relationships if the pope isn't watching.

If you're unsure and want to try out the BDSM world then cheat. But be prepared he can be pissed off if he finds out.

[gloombunny]

It depends on what the husband thought he was agreeing to, really. Figuring that out could be awkward.