D/s outside one's marriage

[Warbaby1943]

I don't get it either. For me a relationship is based on love, not which bits gets put into which holes. Love is love no matter if it's on-line or off. Cheating is giving love on the side without your spouses aproval. I've met girls who in theory would like to be one of many slaves, but none who when it gets around to it actually want to follow through with it. But I'm not going to judge or make assumptions. I'll just keep trying to understand, (out of my own selfish interests who wouldn't want a harem of their own).

So are you separating cheating from adultery? I could easily admit to cheating but never to adultery?

This subject has been discussed many time before here and there are always those on both sides of the issue who have strong feelings. So no matter what your view, to you you are right and nothing is going to change your mind. It is like saying, "Please don't confuse me with facts" in my opinion.

I know I'm not trying to change anyone's mind and I'm certainly not letting anyone change my mind.

[TomOfSweden]

So are you separating cheating from adultery? I could easily admit to cheating but never to adultery?

This subject has been discussed many time before here and there are always those on both sides of the issue who have strong feelings. So no matter what your view, to you you are right and nothing is going to change your mind. It is like saying, "Please don't confuse me with facts" in my opinion.

I know I'm not trying to change anyone's mind and I'm certainly not letting anyone change my mind.

Nah, it's mostly just a semantics arguement. Like adultery and cheating. They are stricly speaking synonyms so it's down to how you personally define the words.

For me sharing love without your spouces knowledge is cheating, (and adultery). It's one thing if they're in on it, but if they aren't then well..... if you can't be 100% honest with your partner, then it isn't much of a relationship is it?

[Warbaby1943]

Nah, it's mostly just a semantics arguement. Like adultery and cheating. They are stricly speaking synonyms so it's down to how you personally define the words.

For me sharing love without your spouces knowledge is cheating, (and adultery). It's one thing if they're in on it, but if they aren't then well..... if you can't be 100% honest with your partner, then it isn't much of a relationship is it?

As I said, I'm not out to try to change anyone's mind and I won't have mine changed by any words I see here either.

[TomOfSweden]

As I said, I'm not out to try to change anyone's mind and I won't have mine changed by any words I see here either.

and I can only use myself to measure. I'm just thinking of how I would feel if my girlfriend/slave had another Master on-line. I wouldn't accept it one bit. It's not a matter of jelousy but time. Both of us are busy people and if she would prioritise someone else over me romantically then we would see so little of each-other that we might as well break up.

I'd be the last person to judge anybody. If it works for you then great.