Is It A Conscious Decision?

[precious]

TDS has yet to set up a task for me that i would fail at. That is how i show my devotion to Him is through the completion of assorted tasks, just as most of the subbie's out there do for their Dominates.

Have i failed a task with Him, yes, but, as i stated earlier in this thread, it was not an intentional failure at the time and since then the order has been revised to allow me the best chance of success. And when W/we discussed that failure i saw it as a complete failure at the time, where as He saw it as i had failed one portion of the exact task but something else in the relationship had grown and advanced from that failure, so ultimately there were overall positive results.

There have been tasks that i have almost failed at... but then again, they weren't designed for that to be the outcome but they were designed to push a limit and to help our relationship grow....

Will there be a time that TDS gives me a catch 22 task? i, as His, expect it on many levels. Have we directly discussed that being something that would happen. No, but based on what i know about Him, the type of play that we both enjoy, etc. i expect it to happen for two simple reasons...

1. There are some areas that i can not experience growth in until i am pushed to the point of failure just based on who i am. i have to "fail" in order to get past the confines, probably mental more then anything, that is preventing success in other areas. i need the failure to be able to release myself so that i will allow and accept the resulting growth. There are many out there who function this way... and imho, i would rather have a planned failure (although i may not know exactly at that moment that it is planned), where i know i will be picked up and taken care of after wards so i can grow and move forward then to have the failure when i am most vulnerable to extreme negatives without the follow up care. (If that makes any sense.)

2. As TDS said, sometimes a mind fuck can be as enjoyable as a good whipping. Would everyone enjoy that... no. But, like with any good D/s relationship that is where boundries, limits, etc. are discussed before hand and put into play. TDS knows that i ultimately enjoy the mind fuck. It, to me, is a large part of a D/s relationship and i do enjoy that as much as i do a good whipping! And, at the point of realization of the mind fuck, is where it becomes evident that the task was not a "failure." The portion of the task that made the mind fuck successful may have required a failure on some level but ultimately the ending result is a success for both of us. His knowing (as well as it can be known) the response and my response, which would require a great deal of trust in Him and the relationship, during the mind fuck work towards that success and in the end growth.

So, that being said, yes both reasons, but especially reason 2 has to be handled with caution and care. Communication has to be open, limits discussed, etc. Tasks designed in those fashions probably, in some ways, require more detail to attention by a Dominate then a majority of other tasks, just because of the possible extreme emotions that could be caused by either.

But, are they wrong? NO... as long as that is what each in the relationship enjoy. Do they make the relationship a "game?" By no means do they do that. It adds a different aspect to the relationship, but as before if that is what each party enjoys there is nothing wrong with it. Is that for each couple? Once again NO... each person/couple/relationship is different.

Just another aspect of what makes each D/s relationship so special and unique.

EDIT: i do feel that i need to add a note here. There is a difference between a "mind fuck" and a Dominate who is actually just an abuser or out to be cruel. A mind fuck is something both parties ultimately enjoy... imho, in some fashion. If a Dominate does it for any other purpose, his own pleasure, etc. without considering the sub, their response, the future of that response, etc. that is when it moves into abuse... Once again just my opinion but felt it necessary to add...