How far do you go?

[MG_cleo]

I have, for example, raped my sub. By that, I do not mean just as play, she objected in the "safe word" manner, but I carried on and finished the intercourse anyway.

I quote from your original post, as above. You said it, I did not! She objected in a "safeword manner", whatever that might be construed as.

Those who choose not to use a safeword must make that choice themselves: however that choice must be both informed and consensual and the decision should be reached by BOTH parties. It must never be assumed by one or the other.

One of the greatest privileges that a dominant can be charged with is the responsibility to ensure the well-being of his submissive (both mental and physical) and ignoring such obvious signals as you describe for one's own self gratification, and then justifying those actions by saying "that's what she actually wanted" signifies, in my opinion, a real need to look at how such a relationship is managed.

I will say no more.

MG