Quote Originally Posted by Wolfscout View Post
It's your knowing she had a safe word and did not use it when she did .. that is the problem I see here.
I find you ignoring some one with a safe word as Conduct Unbecoming a Dom.
There is pushing the limits.. a safeword sets that limit in hard boundary.
Yes, a safe word does, but there was no safe word. I would think that is clear from what I wrote before. A safe word does set a definite limit. If there is no safe word, one have to use one's judgment.


Regardless of what fantasy a sub tells you doesn't give you the right to push it and enact it beyond that safe word.
If her fantasy was a snuff film would you make that dream come true?
No, but there is a significant difference. Intercourse generally does no irreparable harm, consensual or not, while murder or mayhem does.

I would say you were so far wrong as to need to seriously rethink your own situation.
What if I already did rethink it? This thread is about stretching limits.

I think it bespeaks of you losing control and not paying attention to her needs and desires. I would think a Dom who does lacks the ability to be responsible for others. This seems you only fulfilled your own in this action .. not hers. She declared hers to you when she used the safeword.
I would wonder of the sub herself.
I would also wonder if this sub chose to stay with you and to her from her herself.
We are still a couple, years later. Just after the event, we talked it through, there were no hard feelings. On the contrary, she agreed with me that she had told me on numerous occasions she wanted me to rape her. The event has never been an issue again.

We still often play rape games. She has since never objected in the manner she did at the event described by me.

Judge for yourself if you still think I am a bad Dom.