Well I am at this very moment discussing and arranging a rape scenario with my Monsieur (yes we've sort of made rapid progress...). This is for me my first real role play, and my first 'violent' sex (as opposed to 'straight' sm). I am nervous (and excited). But if I for one second thought that he wouldn't stop at the safe word, I wouldn't begin to discuss it.

rce, you say there was no safe word and never has been; that totally contradicts you saying that she objected in a safe-word manner and you just carried on.

You say you discussed it and it was no problem, you're still together as a successful couple. I can imagine a situation where I was in an abusive relationship, rather than a truly consensual and sharing one, and within that I would be too damn frightened and too damn cowed to be able to say 'you raped me you bastard, I said stop and you didn't, you betrayed my trust in you'. Betrayal, fear - these things do not get fixed overight. Abuse - can last a lifetime. That is the impression or at the very least the concern that I get from this discussion.