When I spotted this thread, I read through it, read through it again to make sure I wasn't hallucinating, and then went to talk to my sub about it. We both came to the same conclusion: bad Dom.

Now, I'm not going to rail against anyone (since it's my first day here, after all), but "objected in a safeword manner" sounds to me like she used what you knew, without a doubt, was not her normal language. She was not objecting in a vanilla way, she was objecting in a sub way. The difference to me here is that the safeword exists so that the sub DOES NOT GET INJURED. They don't use it when they just don't feel like doing something, they use those words when something has gone wrong. For it to be ignored... *sigh*

Likewise, everybody makes mistakes, and so long as you have learned from it and never treated your sub like that again -- and apologized profusely -- I think the subject can be let go. We all had to go through growing pains when we go into the lifestyle, and sometimes, mistakes are made. If we're lucky, they aren't too horrible, but some of us have to go through the bad ones, and it looks like you and your sub did.

Best wishes.