i just had a thought on this-
maybe jiggy is serious about this act... I think it would be okay if when you tell the sub you are displeased with the bj- it is not meant seriously, it's just like saying she's a "naughty girl" but not really meaning that..

But shocking the sub with an unexpected punishment when they really haven't displeased you is unhealthy- to make the sub feel she has disappointed you when in actuality she hasn't- that's abusive to me.